How to get over a break up

I suppose this was my first real break up. And I'm unsure as to whether or not it has been easy. In a sense, I'm glad it happened at the time it did. I'd have been more devastated had it happened years into our relationship and I'm glad that the negative energy has now evaporated from my life. I don't need someone who is like that around me. It still hurts, and I still think about him. I walk past a restaurant we once went in and have to remind myself to be strong so I don't break down. But every day is getting easier.

Break ups are something that we all are going to have to go through at some point. Whether you're doing the breaking up, you've been cheating on or it's a mutual decision, it's never easy leaving someone who once a big part of your life behind. Because of this, I thought it'd be nice to use this topic as another lifestyle-style post and to also get you guys involved a little at the end. 

Keep yourself busy 

I was very lucky that I found out my ex had cheated on me the evening before I went to work. I didn't have the chance to wallow too much because I knew that I had to sleep for work the next day. And at work I definitely didn't have time to even think about what had happened. It helped a lot. Whether it's reading, working, writing, going out, dating or working out. You need to do everything possible to keep your mind occupied.

Surround yourself with a good support system 

Although my friends are scattered across the county because they're from university, they were there for me. They were always checking in on me, texting me, calling me, just making sure I was okay. They didn't really give me an opportunity to think about what he did. My family didn't mention him - which I asked for and my friends ripped into him - and her - and built up my confidence and made me feel better. Sometimes, that's just what you need.

Remove them from social media 

This one was harder for me because I'm waiting for my ex to return my things so I've had to keep in touch with him (he hasn't half dragged it out, ugh). But the person from Facebook, unfollow them on Twitter, delete their number. And make sure you don't stalk them. I had to remove my ex from Facebook because him and and the cheatee were splattered all over my timeline, and that's something I didn't need to see. Another thing is to throw away negative things that you remind you of that person.

Music 

Music is such a major part of my life. I need it to function and without it, I doubt I'd have gotten over the break up so quickly. Music speaks to me. But it's important to listen to empowering songs - no Adele! Some of my favourites: Alanis Morissette, You Oughta Know; Britney Spears, Lonely; Britney Spears, Stronger; Cheryl, Screw You; Justin Timberlake, Cry Me A River; Pussycat Dolls, I Don't Need a Man; Taylor Swift, Picture To Burn; Fifth Harmony, Miss Movin' On; Miley Cyrus, FU; Miley Cyrus, On My Own. 

Meet other people 

This one is quite controversial as I know some people will think the last thing you should be doing is dating. When I went on my first date after the break up I felt bad. Should I be dating? Should I be meeting others? But then I thought... he was dating other people WHILST we were together. I think putting yourself back out there is a scary concept, especially when your confidence is at such a low. But it helped me. 

@bamboozlebeauty the best thing about your boyfriend cheating on you, is that you get to go on another first date oh my god!!!1!

— Jamie Spicer (@jamie_spicer) September 7, 2014

@bamboozlebeauty eat lots of chocolate and watch non stop chick flicks. :) xo

— Sharna ♥ (@PerksOfSharna) September 7, 2014

@bamboozlebeauty Friends & time. They help heal the wounds & make you feel like life is worth living. Oh and a few nights out help ;) xx

— Sian ♡ (@SianMarieBeauty) September 7, 2014

@bamboozlebeauty Time and keeping busy :) x #bbloggers

— Sophie (@SophiesMakeup) September 7, 2014

What are your top tips for getting over a break up?

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Right now, I'm in the middle of my dissertation and being a blogger, there was only one topic I could choose. That is the relationship between magazines and blogs, of course. This is where I need your help. For my research, I'm conducting surveys: one for bloggers, one for blog/magazine readers and one for PR companies/brands. The surveys are only 9 questions long and I'd love it if you could spare a few minutes of your time to take them. If you're a blogger and a blog/magazine reader, you can of course take them both if you wish. After you've completed the survey, please feel free to fill out the Rafflecopter form below and I will choose a winner in a few weeks time to win a hamper full of beauty products as a thank you.

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HELP!

Hi girls!

Just a quick post to ask for your help again, if that's okay? I'm currently winning the InLoveWithFashion competition but literally by a few votes. If you have a spare 2 seconds would you be able to "like" this photo please? I'm in desperate need of clothes since losing weight and this would be the perfect opportunity. If you do click the "like" button on the photo then you will receive an extra five entries in my Magazine Subscription Giveaway so make sure you mark it down on the Rafflecopter form.

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I've been shortlisted!

Hi girlies :) and guys if any of you read my blog...
Just a quick post to let you know that I've been shortlisted in the In Love With Fashion competition. And I'm in desperate need of new clothes so I'm going to be whoring this competition out haha. You can vote for my entry here by clicking the "like" button. If you do then make sure you let me know on my giveaway Rafflecopter form as it'll earn you FIVE extra entries!
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Help & Update!

Hey guys!

So just a random post today. I was just wondering if you'd all be able to complete this survey for me please. It's regarding beauty boxes and your preferences for what you'd like to receive in them. My friend's sister is hoping to start her own beauty box company so it's just a little bit of market research to find out what us beauty addicts would prefer to receive!

A big thank you to all who take part.

And another little update - to everyone who took part in my BB cream giveaway, please hold tight! I'm trying to get a hold of 2 more vouchers so that you can all receive one.

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Is abroad different to the UK?

I bought these trousers last summer in preparation for my summer holiday and I loved them. I really liked wearing them abroad but when it comes to the UK regardless of the weather, I just can't bring myself to wear them. I'm not sure why but I think the rules are different abroad. You can be a bit more experimental and 'out-there' with your clothing when you're on holiday. But when you're in England, it's different. These are very 70's and in-your-face and I think I'd get funny looks if I wore them over here. So I was just wondering, do you have any clothes that you'd dare to wear abroad but not in the UK? Or am I the only one?

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Having My Hair Cut - HELP!

If you're a regular on my blog then you know that I haven't had my hair cut in around 2 years. The reason for this is that if I have it cut, it doesn't tend to grow. However, it's now at the length that I want it to be at so when I get paid on Tuesday, I'm hoping to go to the hairdressers and get a few layers put in and a fringe. Now, when I say I haven't had my hair cut in 2 years it doesn't mean it's in bad condition with terrible split ends as I've looked after it very well - a lot of deep conditioning so don't go not having your hair cut unless you're willing to look after it properly!

Minus the blonde hair, the images above are exactly how I want my hair. I usually put my fringe behind my ears in order to keep it out of the way of my eyes and this ends up just looking a mess so I'm hoping to get a fringe put in. I love Britney's in the first two images; I love the way it sweeps across her face, covers up her forehead and looks effortless. I'd say my hair is about the same length as Britney's in the second two images and I love the layering in them both. It creates volume and also allows beautiful curls to be put into the hair. So I'll be taking these pictures along to the salon with me to see if there's anything that they can do.

This is what my hair looks like now so I think it's definitely manageable. My fringe doesn't look too bad on these photos though - possibly because it's placed there with quite a bit of hairspray. But when I'm out and can't place it there in time for photos, it becomes such a pain and just gets in the way. If you're around Lincoln and can recommend some good hairdressers then please, let me know! And if you have any tips on how to approach the hairdressers, comment below as I've never been to the hairdressers in my life! (My mum used to be one so she's always cut my hair for me).

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HELP! What Do I Wear Tonight?

Originally, I was going to do a haul post but instead, I decided to show you the two dresses that I bought today and ask you which one you prefer as I'm unsure of what to wear tonight. The haul post will then be up tomorrow so look out for that!

The orange dress is from New Look and yes, it needs ironing! I can't believe I actually bought a dress that I need to iron - that will be a challenge. It was originally £22 but there's 20% student discount at the moment so it came to just £17.60 which is a bargain. Both the belts on the dresses are from Primark and were just £1 each. The dress in the middle is from Primark and was only £10 and the belt came with it! I'm completely unsure of which dress (and belt) to wear but I decided to choose these dresses because they're a bit different to what I'd usually go for. Colour isn't my thing and neither is leopard print but it was strange how much I fell in love with them both! The orange dress appears two different colours but the picture with the black/gold belt represents the true colour of the dress.

So if you could let me know via the poll below which dress/belt you prefer, I'll wear it tonight and be forever grateful :)!

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Epilators - Philips Satinelle Soft

I've always wanted an epilator. There's nothing more appealing to me than not having to shave your legs for weeks. And that's what epilators allow. If you don't know what one is, then I'll briefly sum them up; epilators have lots of tiny tweezers that pluck out your hairs and therefore give you smooth skin for weeks.. a lot better than shaving daily! 

So yes, I've always wanted one. That was until I opened one of Christmas day. I was petrified. I've read a lot of 'terror' stories about them.. apparently, they're very painful. But of course, after a while you get used to it and it's not longer painful. I briefly tried it out on my mums arms on Christmas day and as soon as it touched her a little tiny big, she screamed. So that only further scared me!

The epilator features a shaving head (which in this photo is attached to the shaver), a shaving head attachment to trim your bikini area, an epilator head, an epilator attachment to cut longer hairs and massage the skin and finally, a brush to clean everything with! (It also includes a carrying bag, a mains charger and lots of booklets).

This is the shaving head and the attachment. That's the good thing about this epilator.. if you can't handle the pain, there's always a good old trusty shaver! The shaver perfectly follows the contours of your bikini line, underarms and legs for a close and smooth shave. The attachment is great for trimming long hairs before shaving or epilating. 

This is the epilating attachment and head. It lifts and massages even the shortest hairs for fast, effective epilation. The massage action minimises the pulling sensation and relaxes the skin. This epilator captures hairs from 0.5mm to 4mm which is a great range.

Now, even after reading what the massaging attachment does, I'm still scared to use it! So basically this post is a 'help' post. I was wondering what advice you have for epilating. If there's anything that can stop the pain? The best way to do it? If it's better with wet or dry skin? Anything you know about epilating, please post in the comments! You can view more about this shaver/epilator and buy it here.

Thank you :)

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University Survey Help!

Following my last post, I've decided to do my first university assignment on body image. So I've created a quick survey and I'd really appreciate it if you could take a few spare moments and complete it :)

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Thank you in advance for your help :)

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